My Friends Are Telling Me to Abort, But I’m Not Ready

August 27, 2025

When facing an unplanned pregnancy, friends often want to give advice. Some may quickly suggest abortion as the “best” or “easiest” option, especially if you’re still in school or living at home.

But what happens when that doesn’t feel right to you? If your friends are pushing you to abort but you’re not ready, it’s essential to pause and recognize that this is your decision—no one else’s.

Schedule an appointment with us today to learn how we can equip you to make an informed decision and navigate difficult situations.

Pressure Can Feel Overwhelming

Even if your friends mean well, their opinions can weigh heavily on you. You may hear things like, “You’ll regret keeping the baby” or “Abortion will solve your problems.”

But if your heart and mind aren’t at peace with that option, it’s worth listening to your own instincts. You are the one who will live with the outcome—not your friends.

How to Recognize Pressure

The following can all be signs of pressure coming from your friends:

Your friends only talk about abortion and avoid conversations about parenting or adoption.
You feel rushed to decide before you’re ready.
Support is offered only if you choose abortion.
You feel guilted, shamed, or threatened if you hesitate.

If any of these sound familiar, you may be experiencing pressure rather than true support.

Why You Deserve Time and Space

Decisions made under pressure can leave lasting emotional impacts. Women navigating an unplanned pregnancy may experience stress, anxiety, or confusion, and it’s important to have space to process feelings before moving forward. Taking time to consider your options helps you feel more confident and secure in whatever choice you make.

Finding Safe Support in Hartford

At Birthright of Greater Hartford, we understand how difficult it can be when the voices around you feel loud and overwhelming. That’s why we provide a calm, confidential space where you can share your concerns and discuss your options without judgment or pressure.

We offer free appointments to help you process your unique situation and all of your options. Most of all, we are here to listen. You don’t have to walk this road alone, and you don’t have to rush into a decision you’re not ready for.

You’re Not Alone

If you’re not ready for abortion—even if friends are encouraging it—you have the right to take a step back and explore all your options. Your voice and your feelings matter.

Reach out to Birthright of Greater Hartford today to schedule a confidential appointment. We’re here for you, every step of the way.

FAQs: Facing Pressure About Abortion

What if I’m scared to tell my friends I’m not ready for an abortion?

It’s okay to set boundaries. You don’t owe anyone a rushed answer. Sometimes taking space from pressuring conversations can help you think more clearly.

Can Birthright help me if I’m unsure what to do?

Yes. Our team provides free, confidential support to help you express your feelings and explore all of your options without judgment.

What if I feel like I have no support outside of abortion?

You’re not alone. We can connect you with resources for parenting support, adoption information, and practical help right here in Hartford.

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