Why Would I Choose Adoption Instead of Abortion? - Birthright of Greater Hartford

November 27, 2023

Knowing what to do about an unplanned pregnancy can be agonizing. None of your choices are easy. If you’re weighing whether you should make an adoption plan or have an abortion, we want to give you information that hopefully helps you decide.

How Can I Place My Child for Adoption?

Today, an expectant woman or birth mother makes all the adoption decisions. She chooses the adoption plan, the potential adoptive parents, and the future she wants for her child. She has control of the process.

Begin by choosing an adoption coordinator who will care for you. Make sure you receive thorough adoption counseling. No one should ever coerce you into making this choice, and you should never pay for adoption services.

When selecting the perfect adoptive couple to raise your child, consider what is essential to you. Do you want them to have instant siblings or be the oldest? Should they grow up on a farm or in the city? What is the future you want for your child?

An adoption agency ensures you receive quality medical care during pregnancy and delivery. In addition, you can receive assistance for pre-approved pregnancy-related expenses such as maternity clothing, transportation, rent, food, and counseling.

By selecting an open or semi-open adoption plan, you have contact with your child and their adoptive family. You will always be a vital part of your child’s life story.

Is it Easier to Choose Abortion?

Some people say having an abortion is easier because you can move on like nothing ever happened. But is that true? An unplanned pregnancy is life-changing no matter what choice you make.

Although we do not provide or refer for abortion, we can give you factual information about abortion procedures, side effects, and the potential physical and emotional risks.

The number of weeks you have been pregnant determines the type of abortion you qualify for. The FDA has approved the use of medical abortion (the abortion pill method), which uses drugs to terminate a pregnancy through 10 weeks only (70 days from the first day of your last menstrual period).

It might be necessary to have a surgical abortion if you are farther along. There is the potential for infection or an incomplete abortion with a medical or surgical procedure. It’s critical to be aware of the signs to watch for.

Like adoption, thorough counseling is essential before making this choice. Studies show that some women struggle with anxiety, depression, guilt, and shame afterward. Be sure you understand the entire process.

How Do I Know Which is Best?

Only you can decide what is best for your future. At Birthright, we provide caring support and practical information to assist you in making your choice. We want you to ask questions and explore your options without feeling pressured or judged.

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